Body Positivity & Gay Pride

Disclaimer: This is a thought post and you are free to express your opinion in the comments below. 

If you follow me on Tumblr, you can get to know some of the causes I support. I like to think that my blog is a place for life style acceptance, no hate and no shame. As a fat person I’ve dealt with being teased, one-liners, back handed compliments and a plethora of “internet doctors” who think they know how to help me and what’s best for me. Which is why I feel personally attacked when others shame people for their lifestyle and I can’t stand by and watch. What is worst is when I see those who have experienced the same judgement turn around and judge others. Maybe the topic isn’t the same…but the basis is still there.

You can’t stand behind your lifestyle choices and then put someone down for theirs. Wether it is smoking, doing cardio (yes now you are being judged if you don’t “lift”), being a vegan, recycling, not having a job or sleeping around, it’s no one’s concern. Now, no one is perfect and I catch myself sometimes writing/saying or thinking hateful things. But it’s a growing process. One that I hope the kids that will eventually lead the generations after us, will overcome differences in race, class, gender, weight, hair color and see we are all humans.

Why can’t we just stop judging and imposing opinions on others. I guess being fat, people can tell what my vice is just by looking at me so it’s easy to chat aloud about it. When someone is openly gay, people criticize because they can see it. If you aren’t hiding it you must be open to hearing the “truth” of how you are living in sin, or hurting your body. Their excuse for telling you is always the same.. “I just want to help”  and their reasoning for wanting to “help” you is because they think you are a bad influence or they just don’t want to see it. Your lifestyle isn’t aesthetically pleasing.

So where am I going with this? What do Gay pride and Fatitude have in common? Acceptance, humanity and decency. You may not understand it, and that’s ok but don’t judge just because you “can’t even imagine” or “have no idea how _ could live/look like that.” It will make your life a lot more bearable if you stop concerning yourself with how everyone lives their life and just try and give back to society with kindness and acceptance.

Here are some awesome internet posts where people are standing up to hate, negativity and discrimination:

Burger King’s Proud Whopper “We’re all the same on the inside”

What it means to something “Like a Girl”

Dismissing female success for superficial reasons

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10 honest thoughts about being loved by a skinny boy

Aerie’s body acceptance campaign “none of these photos have been retouched”


This girl takes on a fraternity website on the topic of High-waisted jeans “Do not ever ridicule someone else for it or get it in your head that they dress for you or anyone else.”


I realize that you may not agree with this post, and if you unfollow my blog..I understand. Because like this post says, everyone has their opinion and just because I feel that you should accept differences in other people doesn’t mean I am right and you are wrong. What are your thoughts on acceptance and equality? Have you experienced discrimination or judgement based on your lifestyle or size? Do share your story.

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  1. I love it when fat women refer to themselves as “fat”. NOT “fluffy” or “Big” or “large” or “extra” or “Sturdy”.

    Unfortunately, fat women have their own hangups about what they want in a guy. I am a little guy who likes larger women. “Larger” as in “taller”. It’s been my experience that most fat women don’t want a guy that they are larger or even much larger than because it makes them look fatter. Luckily though, I have found far more open minds in the bdsm, polyamorous, SCA, and Mensa communities than the so-called “size acceptance” community.

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